Marriage is a relationship between two partners - a gentleman and a lady. The Couple (a gentleman and a lady) plan and vow to each other that they will live together whether good or bad for the rest of their lives.
Therefore the option for 'Divorce' is not part of the agreement and have to be prevented because it is not good for both the husband, Wife & Children. So in this post, we will study how to prevent Divorce and stay happily together as married couples.
Therefore the option for 'Divorce' is not part of the agreement and have to be prevented because it is not good for both the husband, Wife & Children. So in this post, we will study how to prevent Divorce and stay happily together as married couples.
- Choose your partner carefully.
The person you marry can make or unmake you for life. Choosing a life partner is, therefore, the most important decision you will ever make. Never choose by impulse, looks, money, power and fame.
- Serious Courtship
Marry after serious courtship to make sure you have comparable qualities and can cope with the weaknesses of each other. Never go into marriage hoping to you can change your partner or expect the bad behaviour of a lover to improve. It never does. In fact it may get worse. Expect challenges in your marriage because it is impossible for two partners to stay without disagreement.
- All partners go through challenges.
The difference between successful and failing marriages is how partners handle their challenges. Challenges themselves are neutral and properly handled they grow the marriage but those poorly handled may break the marriages. Almost every challenge can be solved. The best approach is resolution. Find time to talk about your challenges. Make suggestions about the way forward and make mutual solutions. Apologise where you are wrong.
- Learn to forgive.
Appreciate that when you refuse to forgive you are predisposing yourself to mental, physical and spiritual harm. The only person who benefits when you forgive is you. If you refuse to forgive the one who is one flesh with you, you behave like someone who keeps drinking poison and expects another to die. Again if you do not forgive, God will not forgive you. Learn to forgive your spouse unconditionally.
- Put the focus on yourself.
Avoid marriage killers like selfishness, dishonesty, immorality, inequity, substance abuse and poor communication. At the same time, do what builds marriage; appreciation, respect, support, companionship and unconditional love.
- Develop a positive mental attitude about yourself, your lover and marriage.
If you see your partner as your maker’s greatest gift to you, you will not settle for less. Your partner is not perfect but if you learn to accept his or her flaws, you relationship grows.
- Love is expensive and that is the price you pay for loving your partner.
Above all never allow anything to come between you and your marriage. Never think of divorce. It has never been a solution. It has always been a problem.
You are welcome to read more of these tips on how to prevent divorce from this book called "the magic of making up".